In this session we meet Destinee. She learned early in life that it was important to stay focused on her body in order to meet expectations set by others and maintain these relationships. As she gets to know her Parts, there is an important shift which creates space for a different approach.
Destinee is new to Parts work and this is her first experience being guided to go inside and connect with her Parts.
WHO SHOWED UP...
Key Parts
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A Part who believes a focus on shape and weight will stop Destinee going back to old ways of eating
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A Part who appeases and mirrors to stay connected
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A young Part who wants to be liked by other people.
Other Parts
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A Part who believes a focus on shape and weight helps Destinee meet other peoples expectations
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A Part who wants Destinee to be able to trust her instincts
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A Part who is concerned about burdening others
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A Part who wants to help Destinee figure out what she needs and wants.
WHAT I NOTICED…
This session did not follow the standard IFS format as my system was activated. My more analytical Therapist Parts definitely led this session! Although I was able to hold space for Destinee to get to know her Parts, there was less Self Energy available. Destinee did a great job of getting to know her Parts and there was a sense of compassion developing inside.
When connecting with the younger Part earlier in the session I recognised the lack of Self Energy in my own system. As witnessing wasn’t going to be possible, I offered an invitation for this Part to come to the present with Destinee. This would leave space for them to begin building a connection in the coming days and weeks.
I have a Part who can acknowledged what went well in session e.g. that Destinee discovered that clarity is needed around what is ‘good enough’ for her, such an important realisation! There is also a Part in me who has been critical of the analytical Parts and the lack of Self Energy. I have been holding space for these Parts since the session.
WHAT I’D DO DIFFERENTLY…
If more Self Energy had been available to me, I would have liked to have supported Destinee to build a deeper connection with her Parts so they could sense her healing presence.
I would have preferred to stay with her protectors rather than explore her young Parts experience at the beginning of session. I’m not sure which of my Parts led me down that path!
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HEY THERE!
In case we haven't met yet, I'm Celia, a therapist and course creator who helps smart, sensitive women all over the world do the deeper work so they can finally be at peace with food, their body and themselves.
I am super creative and love learning new ways to share what I know, so that women no longer have to carry the toxic stories they have been told about their bodies and about their place in this world. There is nothing more fulfilling to me than witnessing a woman heal and step into her light.
I also share my passion for the Parts Work approach with other therapists, so they too, can integrate this compassionate, holistic and deeply transformative approach into their practice.